Pre-Marital Questionnaire

Are you/have you ever been married and thought to yourself that you wish there had been a questionnaire to find out stuff about your spouse BEFORE you committed? This page is a questionnaire that has some questions that may have provided insights before I said "I do."

  1. Have you ever paid your own bills? If so, which bills and how did you pay for them?

  2. What is your net equity? Please detail your assets, liabilities and financial goals for the next 5 years.

  3. Please describe your ideal day/life 10 years from now. Please describe what you are doing, with whom, and where.

  4. Same question - 20 years from now.

  5. Same question - 30 years from now.

  6. Describe what you believe will be the things you are most proud of in 10 years.

  7. Same question - 20 years from now.

  8. Same question - 30 years from now.

  9. Have you ever cleaned a bathroom? Please describe your methods.

  10. Please describe any thoughts you have on how often bedding should be laundered.

  11. Please describe any thoughts you have on what you do with dishes, utensils and any cooking supplies after meal time.

  12. Please describe what food, when you eat, and who prepares meals on your ideal day.

  13. Did you wear braces? If so, for how long?

  14. Did you have acne? If so, to what extent and for how long?

  15. As a baby, did you ever have croup?

  16. In general, describe what your approach to parenting would be if you had children. Please talk to what you would do, how you would raise your child (values, morals, education, etc), and your approach to discipline/punishment.

  17. Hypothetically, if you were trying to get a baby to sleep through the night, please describe what methods you would employ.

  18. Please explain if you were a parent, what would you ideally be like?

  19. What are your thoughts on religion?

  20. What are your thoughts on religion as it relates to any potential children we may have?

  21. What are your thoughts on self-care and how that is different from being selfish?

  22. What do you think of the Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse and which of these do you think is most pertinent to our relationship?

  23. How do you think we'll create and sustain a couple bubble in our relationship?

  24. In thinking about how/when we fight, what do you think about Esther Perel's argument advice?